Abstract:
One method for building a stable family is learning and practicing adaptation skills. In this article, we will discuss some cognitive, emotional and behavioral skills that establish congenial relationships in the family. As a cognitive skill, Islam encourages believers to be optimistic about others and even the world, and refrain from being pessimistic about others even if they see mistakes from them. Having a sense of realism is another cognitive skill which helps couples understand the reality of this world and control their expectations in family relationships. Islamic teachings also have a positive impact on human sympathy and emotion in dealing with one’s spouse and children. In the religion of Islam, a part of having true faith in God is having love for one’s spouse and children. Practicing such emotional skills as gratitude and gratefulness also have psychobehavioral effects on family life. Verbal and nonverbal behavioral skills can also lead to the following results: increase in the psychological capacity of spouses, prevention of abnormal behavior and emotional problems, a stable family with congenial relationships, and a solid basis for moral training and acquiring divine virtues.
Machine summary:
"Verbal and nonverbal behavioral skills can also lead to the following results: increase in the psychological capacity of spouses, prevention of abnormal behavior and emotional problems, a stable family with congenial relationships, and a solid basis for moral training and acquiring divine virtues.
God says that this world is a means for testing human beings, and tests are accompanied by difficulties: We will surely test you with a measure of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth, lives, and fruits; and give good news to the patient (Baqareh, 155) Therefore, the teachings of Islam guide a person to see the world along with its restrictions, and to not have unrealistic expectations from himself and his/her family which will end up with failure.
As for the former kind, some examples would be talking to the spouse while sitting beside him/her, speaking at the proper time, speaking in a gentle tone, expressing one’s love for one’s partner particularly by the husband , avoiding the use of words and expressions that are bothersome, avoiding moments of silence when in a speaking position.
Islam also encourages people to love their partner and children for the sake of God. Islam also emphasizes on gratitude which is another cognitive and emotional character that leads to adaptation in the family, whereas ungratefulness creates maladaptation.
Among verbal behavioral skills are: talking to the spouse while sitting beside her/him, speaking at a proper time, speaking in a good tone, expressing one’s love for one’s spouse, particularly by the husband, avoiding the use of words and expressions that are bothersome, avoiding moments of silence when in a speaking position."