Abstract:
The Holy Qur’ān has important instructive material in verses 34 and 35 of Sūrat al-Nisā about family management، relationship of spouses، and their duties and the duties of their near of kin. In the above-mentioned verses، interpretation has joined with jurisprudence and theology and created numerous discourses.
First، God has introduced management as the man’s commitment and stated two reasons for it; then، He has pointed out two characteristics of decent wives and finally stated the way to deal with the refractory and indecent women in three phases of admonition، falling out with، and punishment.
Ḍarb (beating [lightly]) is a topic that has caused the protest of the opponents and created misconception for the lowly-informed individuals.
Giving an accurate explanation of this blessed verse، this article studies the above-mentioned topic in terms of the peripheries and margins of its decree، which indicates the legal justice and a means of preventing disappointment and divorce، and mentions the affection and kindness that one has to have toward his wife.
Machine summary:
First, God assigns management to the man, stating two reasons for it; after that, He refers to two characteristics of righteous spouses, and finally, He describes the method of dealing with rebellious and unworthy women in three stages: advice, estrangement, and discipline.
In this article, while explaining the subtleties of the blessed verse, the mentioned subject is investigated in light of the surrounding aspects of its ruling, which expresses legal justice and serves as a way to prevent disillusionment and divorce, and reference is made to the affection and love that an individual should have toward their spouse.
Nonetheless, in terms of family management, the man has superiority over the woman, and the blessed verse also apparently expresses this matter; because the verse (الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ) is regarding management and guardianship, and it can be said that due to the correspondence between the ruling and the subject, the virtue is also in this regard.
Of course, the management of a man does not mean tyranny, but rather it is recommended to be accompanied by consultation and affection, as the Holy Quran has raised this issue regarding consultation in the context of weaning children from breastfeeding and has said: (فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالا عَنْ تَرَاضٍ مِنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا( (Baqarah / 233); so if [the father and mother] wish to wean the child [earlier] with the mutual consent and discretion of each other, there is no sin upon them.
" The late Allamah, Tabarsi, and Fakhr Razi state at the end of this sentence that they are protectors of themselves, the honor and property of the husband, and generally all rights in the absence of the man, which means "Hafizat fil-Ghayb.
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